This Is Why We Speak Up: Caroline Miller’s Racism Toward Mahendra Patel

(CREDIT)

Racism is alive and well, and once again, it’s shown its ugly face in the form of Caroline Miller. Recently, a video is trending on social media of an incident involving Caroline Miller and Mahendra Patel has quickly drawn attention online for all the wrong reasons. Can you guess who's on the receiving end of this vitriolic behavior?

Mahendra Patel, a 56-year-old Gujarati Indian man and pillar of the community, who has lived in the United States since 1990, walked into a Walmart in Georgia on March 18, 2025, to purchase some Tylenol for his elderly mother. Little did he know that this encounter with a horrible woman would land him in jail for allegedly trying to abduct her son 3 days later. He walked by and asked her if she knew where the OTC medicine was located in the store. As she was seated in a motorized wheelchair, fully able-bodied, with her son in her lap, she almost dropped him. Mr. Patel reached out to help so the child wouldn't get hurt because he thought she was disabled. After Mr. Patel walked off, she proceeded to back up and ran over her older child's foot with the motorized wheelchair. Essentially, she was on the scooter because her kids wanted to try it, taking the opportunity away from someone who actually needed to use it. As he is walking out of the store after making his purchase, he sees her again, waving at her and letting her know that he found the Tylenol. 

The police used surveillance footage from when Mr. Patel was checking out to get his receipt details and used that information to find and arrest him. Mr. Patel wasn't even granted a preliminary hearing where his lawyer could provide evidence that contradicted Caroline's claims. Instead, they moved straight to indictment with no bond. His bond hearing was delayed to May 6th, 2025. So this poor man has been sitting in jail for over a month, even though there is evidence that proves he is innocent. People who live in Cobb County are sharing horror stories of the violent acts of aggression by the police/guards that go on in the Cobb County Adult Detention Center. It was recently reported that the death of a homeless woman, who had been held since January 2025, occurred while she was in custody at the same jail.

If he is convicted, he could get 25 years in jail. My heart breaks for him and his family. He will never be the same after this situation. I hope he sues the city, the jail, and Caroline. 

Now, this vile person below is Caroline Miller, the racist individual with a history of crying wolf. Back in 2019, she sued Lyft, claiming she was allegedly sexually assaulted by the driver. The "offender" just got a disorderly conduct charge, which makes me suspicious of her claims. I am in no way saying that it didn't happen; however, the court records don't line up. Unfortunately, if this is the case, women like her make it hard for women who are actual victims to be taken seriously and believed. 

In a news interview, you can see her persuasively asking her son, "Did someone try to take you from Mommy?", knowing damn well he doesn't have the cognitive functioning ability to truly understand what she is asking or implying. This is how hate and ignorance are bred, spewed, and repeated. Hate isn't born, it is taught by the likes of people like Caroline Miller. At this point, CPS should take her children away because she is a danger to them.

And white women wonder why no one really wants to befriend, engage, or deal with them. It could literally cost you your freedom and/or your life. I heard a quote that really resonated with the essence of white women, specifically MAGA women - "White women are the men of women." 

This isn’t just about one woman’s hateful actions; it's about the pattern of racial abuse that too many immigrants and people of color face in public spaces. Mahender Patel's experience echoes across the country, where casual racism often goes unchecked.

People are no longer staying silent, and that’s how accountability begins.

Moments like this highlight the urgent need for education, empathy, and real conversations about racism. Caroline Miller may have thought she could get away with spewing hate, but the internet doesn’t forget. And neither should we. This isn’t about “cancel culture.” It’s about consequences. It’s about calling out behavior that has no place in a respectful society.

To Mahendra Patel and to anyone who is part of the GLOBAL MAJORITY that has ever been the target of racial abuse, you deserve better. And to everyone else: silence is taking the side of complicity. Speak up when you see hate. Unfortunately, we as BIPOC have been in some variation of this type of situation. I know I would want someone to stand up for me if I were in a similar predicament, so I should do the same. 

Here are some ways you can support:

1. Share this post
2. Add your name to the Change.org petition the family put together
3. Reach out to the Cobb County District Attorney at 770-528-3080 (though they are ignoring calls)
4. Donate to the family's fundraiser
5. Contact the CEO of Insight Global, Bert Bean, about her unethical behavior (she deleted her LinkedIn profile)

What are your thoughts on the incident?

Until next time,

Sharon

How Online Culture Shapes Teen Boys' Minds

 (CREDIT)

Recently I watched Netflix’s Adolescence, a gripping 4-episode drama that captures the chaotic nature of teenage life and delves into one of the most dangerous cultural movements affecting young men today: the manosphere. With a particular focus on red pill ideology, toxic masculinity, and the perpetuation of patriarchy, the show offers a haunting portrayal of how these online communities shape and distort the minds of vulnerable adolescents.


The main character of Adolescence, Jamie Miller, is a 13-year-old boy who is arrested for the murder of a classmate, Katie. As the show slowly reveals Jamie’s troubled mental state and background, it becomes evident that his descent into violence is closely linked to his exposure to the manosphere, a loose network of online communities where misogynistic and anti-feminist ideologies thrive.

The manosphere is a term used to describe a wide range of online spaces where self-identified "men’s rights activists" (MRAs), "incels" (involuntary celibates), and "pickup artists" (PUAs) congregate. These communities often promote toxic ideas about masculinity, relationships, and rigid gender roles. Through content creators and influencers, these spaces push the notion that men are entitled to dominance and control over women, reinforcing patriarchal structures in society.

In Adolescence, the show doesn’t shy away from highlighting the allure of these online communities for young, impressionable minds like Jamie’s. Exposed to the misogynistic teachings of figures like Andrew Tate and other “red pill” influencers, like the 80/20 rule, Jamie begins to internalize ideas about male superiority, the dehumanization of women, and a warped sense of entitlement over relationships and social power.

The red pill metaphor, popularized by the movie The Matrix, is at the core of many online communities within the manosphere. To "take the red pill" refers to a supposed awakening—a belief that one is seeing the truth about society, especially regarding gender dynamics. In the world of the red pill community, this “truth” is the belief that women are manipulative, deceitful, and seek to undermine men, often by leveraging their sexuality or societal structures designed to elevate them above men.

In Adolescence, we witness Jamie’s gradual descent into this ideological rabbit hole. As he becomes more entrenched in these beliefs, his interactions with women become increasingly hostile, and his worldview shifts to reflect the harmful stereotypes and resentment perpetuated by the manosphere. The series doesn’t simply depict Jamie’s exposure to red pill content—it explores how these beliefs become a framework through which he justifies his anger, frustration, and eventual violence.

By portraying this transformation, Adolescence highlights a troubling reality: for many young men, the red pill becomes a form of ideological escapism, offering them a distorted sense of power and purpose at a time when they are feeling lost, isolated, and confused.

One of the most disturbing elements of Adolescence is its exploration of toxic masculinity and the crisis of male identity. Jamie, like many young men in the red pill community, is caught between competing expectations of what it means to be a man. On one hand, he’s taught that he must be emotionally stoic, dominant, and self-reliant. On the other, he’s told that his worth is tied to his ability to control women, acquire material wealth, and uphold traditional gender roles.

This conflict forms the core of Jamie’s identity crisis and is a key driver of his descent into violence. The pressure to conform to these rigid and harmful standards of masculinity creates immense emotional turmoil, which Adolescence doesn’t shy away from portraying. Jamie’s inner turmoil becomes externalized as he struggles to make sense of his place in the world—ultimately culminating in a tragic act that reflects the darker side of these ideologies.

The show expertly critiques how toxic masculinity, bolstered by red pill rhetoric, teaches young men to suppress vulnerability, emotional expression, and empathy—all in favor of a hyper-competitive, oppressive view of masculinity that encourages dominance over women.

At its core, Adolescence is a devastating examination of how misogyny is perpetuated and internalized in young minds. The influence of the manosphere and red pill ideology fosters an environment where young men like Jamie view women not as equals, but as adversaries or tools for their own validation. This mindset inevitably leads to dehumanization, which, in Jamie’s case, sets the stage for an act of violence.

Through Jamie’s interactions with his family, friends, and even his therapist, the show underscores the normalization of misogynistic attitudes. It portrays how everyday sexism and harmful gender stereotypes subtly shape the way Jamie views women, ultimately creating a dangerous, toxic relationship with the opposite sex. The show doesn’t just examine Jamie’s individual actions but critiques the broader societal structures that allow misogyny to thrive, both in the real world and online.

Adolescence isn’t just a reflection on the dangers of the manosphere and red pill culture—it’s a call to action. The series urges viewers to recognize the far-reaching consequences of toxic masculinity and the role of digital platforms in shaping the minds of young men. It serves as a stark reminder of the importance of providing healthier, more constructive role models for boys and offering them emotional support in navigating the complexities of gender and identity.

In a world where misogyny is often dismissed or minimized, Adolescence asks us to confront the dangerous ideologies that lurk online and to question the systems of patriarchy that continue to shape the experiences of young people. By examining the tragic consequences of Jamie’s exposure to these harmful ideas, the show forces us to ask: What are we doing to combat the cycle of hate, resentment, and violence that the manosphere perpetuates?

While each episode is crucial and provides the ways society as a whole has failed our boys, I feel Episode 3 is pivotal in understanding Jamie at his core. Throughout the episode, we get a foundation for Jaime's troubled mind and reflect broader themes of masculinity, societal neglect, and the complexities of male adolescent development.
Shot in a single continuous take, we see the unfiltered exchange between the two characters as Dr. Ariston completes her fifth and final assessment of Jamie. Jaime vacillates emotionally between moments of anger through his outbursts and vulnerability that exposes fragility underneath a hardened exterior. The image above perfectly encapsulates Jamie's fluctuations in his behavior and psychological state through the use of manipulative tactics and a detached emotional state. Mind you, he is only 13 and trying to exert dominance and power over Dr. Ariston when she tells him to do a simple task, sit down. He curses at her and knocks stuff off the table, showing how he doesn't like being told what to do by a woman or controlled. At one point, he refers to himself as one of the "good" guys because he asked Katie out after her nude were leaked to the school. Even at her lowest point, Katie rejects him and indicates that she isn't that desperate to go out with him. He calls Katie a bitch and even tries to get Dr. Ariston to validate his feelings and actions as justifiable because he didn't do anything wrong. Essentially, he blames Katie and does not take accountability for his actions. A particularly chilling moment arises when Jamie makes an inappropriate comment about Dr. Ariston's appearance, further emphasizing his objectification of women and the deep-seated misogyny he has internalized.

 (CREDIT)

Dr. Ariston delves into Jaime's familial dynamics, probing about his relationship with his dad and his dad's relationship with his dad, trying to get a sense of the toxic cycles passed down from generation to generation. Jaime elaborates on when he played football and his dad's response when he would mess up. Even though his dad didn't yell or get mad, he did look away, which Jamie translated as his dad being ashamed of him. If you recall from the first episode where Jamie and his dad are sitting in the interrogation room and are shown Jamie attacking Katie, his dad turns away from him as Jamie sits there and cries.


In Episode 4, you see Jamie's mom taking on the emotional burden of Jamie's dad, which is a responsibility that women in general are tasked with. Jamie's dad is constantly raging and gets physically violent throughout the episode, then swoops in his wife to calm him down. She doesn't even have the time, energy, or emotional bandwidth to deal with her emotions because he is catering to her man-child husband. You see Jamie's parents arguing and how his father talks down and disrespects his wife. It's very condescending and frustrating to watch because she isn't allowed to get a word in. At the end of the episode, you see Jamie's dad start to connect the dots and self-reflect on how he was part of the problem that led his son down this dark path of violence.


If you haven't watched Adolescence yet, I highly recommend you watch it and have some discourse around these topics with your family and friends. Make sure that your husbands, fathers, brothers, male cousins, or any male in your life also watch. We need to stop putting the burden of shouldering this monumental task on just the women and girls. We are just as guilty of failing our boys and men in our lives.


If men want to have authentic and healthy relationships with women, they need to that initiative by stepping up and doing the work to move past their ingrained negative views of women. Failure to learn and grow will result in being a casualty of the GLOBAL male loneliness epidemic. If you haven't read the blog post about the 4B Movement in South Korea, this is an excellent starting point on how women are taking control and not entertaining toxic and violent men.


We all as a society need to do better and be better.


Here are some questions that can help start the dialogue:1. What did you make of Jamie’s emotional state during the therapy session? (Was he being manipulative, sincere, or a mix of both?)
2. Do you think Briony Ariston was able to break through Jamie’s defenses? Why or why not?
3. Why do you think Jamie repeatedly asked, “Do you like me?”
4. What does this reveal about his need for approval or validation?
5. How does Jamie’s body language shift throughout the conversation with Briony? What does that say about his inner turmoil?
6. What role do you think online communities or digital culture played in shaping Jamie’s worldview? 7. Did the episode make you think differently about the responsibility society has in shaping adolescent behavior?
8. Do you think Jamie is a product of his environment or should he be held fully accountable for his actions?
9. How does the show challenge traditional notions of masculinity?
10. Should Briony have answered Jamie’s question about whether she liked him? Why or why not?
11. Do you think Briony remained objective or did her emotions influence her approach?
12. What do you think of the way therapy and mental health were portrayed in the episode? Was it realistic?
13. Do you think Jamie feels remorse for his actions, or is he more upset about the consequences?
14. What message do you think the creators were trying to convey about guilt, redemption, or punishment?
15. Would you say Jamie is redeemable? Why or why not?


What were your thoughts on the series? And, about us getting a second season?


Until next time...

Sharon

Why I Don't Take Advice or Read Self-Help Books by Men

 

Regarding self-help books, the genre is flooded with male authors who promise life-altering insights. Yet, I’ve deliberately chosen to avoid them—a decision rooted in personal experience, cultural context, and a sense of disconnection with how these books often approach self-improvement. I’ve tried reading some, but their advice is unachievable as a mother.

Many male self-help authors write that their experiences, challenges, and solutions are universally applicable. Their advice often stems from a place of privilege, oblivious to the intersections of race, gender, and culture. As a South Indian woman navigating life in America, I rarely see myself in their anecdotes or success stories. Their advice feels like it was crafted for someone else—someone with fewer barriers to overcome. We already know white men are at the top of the hierarchy, but wait, there’s more…

BIPOC men benefit from sexism and white women benefit from racism, leaving BIWOC in the trenches to fend for themselves. Let’s not forget that white women will choose their whiteness over their gender to preserve their privilege. Many have yet to realize that white men look down and don't respect them either. They are merely pawns in a bigger game that only they hold the keys to.  

A recurring theme in self-help books by male authors is the “pick yourself up by your bootstraps” mentality. While personal responsibility is important, this narrative often dismisses systemic issues and community-oriented solutions. It’s a mindset that doesn’t align with the collectivist values I grew up with, where family, community, and interdependence play central roles in personal growth. Throughout my educational and professional career, it has been the women in my life who have been my village. The men did what they do best, put their selfish wants and needs over being involved in the day to day labor, then wanting acknowledgement and accolades for doing the bare minimum. Inconsistently, I might add.

There’s a certain air of infallibility that surrounds many male self-help authors. They position themselves as gurus with the ultimate answers, often ignoring that personal growth is messy, nonlinear, and deeply individual. I find this one-size-fits-all approach dismissive of the nuanced and diverse ways people experience life and solve problems.

Even when male authors try to address emotional intelligence or vulnerability, their perspectives often feel performative or overly clinical. They might touch on universal human experiences, but their framing often feels disconnected from the lived realities of women, particularly women of color.

Not to mention, there is no talk of being the default parent or advice on how to navigate and balance work and family. There’s a simple reason for that. The women in their lives do the mental, emotional, and domestic labor. If he’s married, it’s his wife. If he’s dating, it’s his girlfriend. If he’s single, it’s the women in his family, like his mother, sister(s), aunts, etc. Or, he’ll jump into another relationship quickly after and put the burden on the new woman. It’s a tale as old as time.

(CREDIT)

Let me provide a few examples to help solidify my point.

1. This is How Your Marriage Ends by Matthew Fray -  The book was horrible and should have been a DNF. I kept waiting for it to get better, but the opposite happened. All I could think the entire time was OMG, this guy is an idiot and his wife is a saint for putting up with his crap for so long. The book is based on a blog post, “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink.” Truthfully, that is where it should have ended. He didn’t need a book deal or the ability to offer “advice”. Throughout the repetitiveness of the book, he elaborates on how he dismissed and invalidated his wife’s feelings, verbally abused her, gaslit her, didn’t respect her, and went home so he could sleep in his own bed after she experienced a traumatic birth that resulted in a c-section, even after she asked him to stay with her. When she would bring up the hurt she was experiencing, he would essentially mansplain that’s not what she was feeling. Two things can be true simultaneously - You can be a good person AND a bad partner and/or parent. A man can be good to everyone in his life, but treat the people closest to him, his wife and children, like shit. When the woman finally dares to speak on her abuse and experiences in that relationship, it is often met with support for the man and blaming her, the victim, for his unintelligent emotions and behavior. 

Here are some examples:

• "What did you do to cause him to treat you like that?" 
• "He's not like that." 
• "I don't believe that he treated you like that." 
• "Are you sure that is what happened?"

More so than not, it's women who make these types of comments due to their internal misogynistic views. When you as a woman are being blamed by everyone around you, it makes it easier for the abuser to make you believe the lies and manipulation and that you are to blame for the relationship not working out.

2. The Pursuit of Happyness by Chris Gardner - We’ve all seen the movie and empathized with Will Smith’s character, but after reading the book, they pulled the wool over our eyes. The book is set up as a rags-to-riches memoir; however, it is infused with extremely vulgar language, sexual assault, sexual exploits, drugs, and a man who did not take accountability for his behavior. One thing the movie failed to address is the reason for his demise into homelessness. He was married to the woman of his dreams, then started having an affair with a dental student, getting his side chick pregnant after a few months into the affair. He left his wife and moved in with his girlfriend, only for her to disappear for a few months with their son. She showed up, dropped their son off with Chris, and left. That's where the movie comes in showcasing his struggles as a homeless single father trying to balance work and family.

3. The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene - If anyone tells you this is their favorite or one of their favorite books, especially a man, sprint (don't run) in the opposite direction. I have heard so many good reviews (mainly from men) that I decided to give it a try, and boy was I not prepared for what I heard (audiobook). This was definitely a DNF. This book is a how-to guide to being a manipulative, deceitful, exploitative human with a lack of empathy and understanding for others. Once I started the book and looked at reviews by women and men with high EI, they were scathing and more accurate in assessing the book's contents. This is a book that should be banned because it is propaganda that aligns with the red pill, incel movement we see in the media that is brainwashing our younger generations of men, leaning them to more conservative views that promote patriarchy, misogyny, and all the isms that negatively impact everyone who isn't a cis-het normative male.

4. The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It by Warren Farrell, PhD and John Gray, PhD - This book pissed me off like no other. It started off strong by elaborating on how boys have been struggling from a historical context. As the book progressed, it honestly became a hate campaign against single mothers. Basically blaming single mothers for how our sons are turning out, as if it's not the fathers that failed to be involved in their son's lives. The authors also blamed the Affordable Care Act (or as MAGA calls it, Obamacare), that it is geared towards women and not men when it comes to reproductive health. The second half of the book focused on pseudoscience research about ADHD and Autism, as well as a natural healing approach to "treating" the disorders. I was flabbergasted when he said that Autism could be cured. All this goes to show is that those three letters (PhD) behind a person's name don't indicate that everyone with that title is a subject matter expert. For example, my former supervisor was a coach and promoted to a leadership role due to nepotism rather than experience and education. The organization essentially rushed him through a PhD program to make sure he "looked" good on paper, even though he wasn't qualified for the job.

Here's a great article outlining why Dave Ramsey's financial literacy program does not bode well with BIPOC, specifically African Americans. He does not account for systematic injustices that affect disenfranchised communities. It's nothing new, but that "pick yourself up by the bootstraps" mentality primarily works for white/European Americans when it comes to generational wealth. 

When I read self-help or personal growth books, I gravitate toward women authors, especially those who share my cultural or bicultural background. These authors bring an authenticity and relatability that resonates deeply. Their advice doesn’t just tell me what to do; it acknowledges and validates the complex, layered identity I bring to the table.

One book I highly recommend is We Should All Be Millionaires: A Woman's Guide to Earning More by Rachel Rodgers. As a Black Woman, self-made millionaire, and mother of four, she efficiently breaks down how to maximize outputs and minimize time to balance a career and family life. My life's mantra is, "Work smarter, not harder."

It’s not that I believe male authors have nothing valuable to say—it’s that their voices have dominated the genre for so long that they often drown out others. By choosing not to read self-help books by male authors, I’m carving out space for voices that feel more relevant and affirming to my life as a bicultural woman.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from traditional self-help books, consider exploring works by women, BIPOC authors, or those who share your unique perspective. Personal growth is deeply personal, after all, and it deserves a narrative that feels like it was written with you in mind.

We as women who are mothers are not afforded the same opportunities or experiences as men when it comes to our careers. I do recall a time early on in my career when I did focus on work, I heard through the grapevine that my children needed me and that I should focus on being a wife and mother.  

Men are not successful in their careers without the domestic, emotional, and psychological labor of women. Invisible labor and the mental load cannot be quantified accurately, but we know it's more than an average man's annual salary done for FREE. A "traditional" man who demands 50/50 from his partner is an oxymoron.

Until next time...

Sharon

Celebrating Black Voices: A Spotlight on Black Authors for Black History Month

Black History Month is a time to honor and celebrate the rich history, culture, and contributions of the Black community. One powerful way to do this is through literature, where Black authors have consistently offered profound insights, vibrant storytelling, and diverse perspectives. Their works invite us to explore the complexities of history, identity, love, struggle, and triumph through their unique voices.

Reading books by Black authors goes beyond mere entertainment. It is an act of engagement with narratives that often challenge mainstream histories and amplify underrepresented voices. Through their stories, we gain a deeper understanding of the Black experience and contribute to a broader conversation about equity, justice, and cultural appreciation.

While Black History Month offers a dedicated time for these explorations, supporting Black authors year-round is essential. Consider joining book clubs, supporting Black-owned bookstores, and sharing your favorite reads by Black writers with your community. Celebrating Black History Month through literature is a meaningful way to connect with history and culture while broadening our understanding of the world. This month, let’s honor the contributions of Black authors and ensure their stories continue to resonate far beyond February.

While I tried my hardest to focus on Black authors, Libby has a mind of its own and simultaneously gives me access to books that I have been waiting several weeks or months for! I can say that a majority of my books were by Black authors.

My favorite fiction book was The Poisons We Drink. As soon as I heard the dedication, I knew I would love the book, and I was right! The dedication in question:

"I dedicate this book to all my haters. I only got this far outta spite."

 The book is an INDIE Young Adult (YA) fantasy book by Bethany Baptiste. Venus, a teenage girl, navigates a world filled with magic, secrets, and danger. She creates love potions to earn money to take care of her family. When her mother is killed, she takes on the responsibility of caring for her rebellious younger sister, Janus. Venus is approached by the Grand Witcher to avenge her mother's killer, but at a cost. As she goes deeper into the political corruption that has plagued her city,  she needs to figure out who she can trust, including herself. Some of the themes the book explores are identity, power, and resilience. 

My favorite non-fiction book was Walking in My Joy: In These Streets by Jennifer Lewis. Many of you may know her from The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air and Black-ish. This book is essentially an elaboration of some of the events from her first memoir, The Black Mother of Hollywood. I don't think I have ever laughed so much while listening to an audiobook. The best part is that Jennifer Lewis is also the narrator of her memoir. Her cadence is pure perfection. She drops the n word (with an "a"), bitch, and muthafucka consistently throughout the book as only Jennifer Lewis can. Each chapter starts off with a poem or music. And as someone who aligns with the same political views as her, she calls out Felon47 during his first term. 

I shared a few resources with students who didn't know where to start to engaging with Black authors and/or movies/documentaries in a multicultural class I supported that just ended. If anyone is interested, here you go:

Non-Fiction Books (in no particular order):

1. The New Jim Crow – Michelle Alexander
2. Bad Feminist – Roxane Gay
3. We Should All Be Feminists - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
4. Feminism is for Everybody – bell hooks
5. All About Love – bell hooks
6. Between the World and Me – Ta-Nehisi Coates
7. Abolition. Feminism. Now - Erica Meiners, Gina Dent, Beth Richie, Angela Y. Davis
8. The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love – bell hooks
9. Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot – Mikka Kendall
10. Unbound: My Story of Liberation and the Birth of the Me Too Movement – Tarana Burke (the creator of the Me Too Movement)
11. Misogynior Transformed: Black Women’s Digital Resistance – Maya Bailey
12. Medical Bondage: Race, Gender, and the Origins of American Gynecology – Deidre Cooper Owens
13. Twice as Hard: The Stories of Black Women Who Fought to Become Physicians, from the Civil War to the Twenty-First Century – Jasmine Brown
14. Are Prisons Obsolete – Angela Y. Davis
15. All Boys Aren’t Blue – George M. Johnson
16. It's Not You, It's Capitalism: Why It's Time to Break Up and How to Move On – Malaika Jabali
17. Freedom is a Constant Struggle – Angela Y. Davis
18. The Sisters Are Alright: Changing the Broken Narrative of Black Women in America – Tamara Winfrey Harris
19. Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change – Stacey Abrams
20. Silent Justice – The Struggle for American Americans Voting Rights – Lawrence Goldstone

Fiction Books (Authors):

1. Fantasy

• Tracy Deonn

2. Contemporary

• Tiffany D. Jackson (writes a lot of YA centric books)
• Dhonielle Clayton

3. Dystopian

• Octavia Butler (among other genres)

4. Suspense/Thriller

• a. Stacy Abrams (also writes under pen name - Selena Montgomery)
• b. Rachel Howzell Hall
• c. Sharona Williams
• d. S. A. Crosby
• e. Kellye Garrett
• f. Jumata Emill
• g. L. S. Stratton
• h. Joelle Wellington
• i. Nicola Yoon
• j. Dalila Harris
• k. Vanessa Walters

5. Romance

• Kennedy Ryan
• Jasmine Guillory
• Denise Willaims
• Michelle Stimpson
• Krystal Marquis
• Taj McCoy
• Brenda Jackson
• Talia Hibbert

6. Horror

• Lisa Springer
•  Erin E. Adams
• Jamison Shea
• Jessica Lewis

Documentaries & Movies:

1. PBS

• Black Migrations: A People on the Move
• American Coup: Wilmington 1898
• Zora Neale Hurston: Claiming A Space

2. YouTube

• Lemonade: The Visual Album

3. Disney+

• Black Is King (2020)

4. Netflix

• 13th (2016)
•  Becoming (2020)
• Homecoming: A Film by Beyonce (2019)
• Amend: The Fight for America (2021)
• For Our Children (2022)
• Black Barbie (2023)
• Rustin (2023)
• Stamped from the Beginning (2023) – based on Ibram X. Kendi’s best-selling book of the same name
• The Black Godfather (2019)

5. Hulu

• Aftershock (2022)
• Toni Morrison: The Pieces I Am (2019)

6. Amazon Prime

• One Night in Miami (2021)
• I Am Not Your Negro (2017)

7. HBO Max

• Black Art: In the Absence of Light (2021)
• Bessie (2015)
• Straight Out of Compton (2015)
• Paris is Burning (1991)
• Good Hair (2009)

8. Apple TV+

• The Banker

9. Hoopla

• Dark Girls (2011)

10. Kanopy

• Ailey (2021)
• John Lewis: Good Trouble (2020
• Maya Angelou: And Still I Rise (2016)

What have you read, listened, and/or watched that you would recommend? I would love to add to my never-ending TBR!

Until next time...

Sharon

The Struggle to Separate the Artist from the Art: A Deep-Dive into the Complexities of Judgment

(CREDIT)

In the age of social media, where celebrities are often both our idols and the subjects of intense public scrutiny, the question of whether we can or should separate the artist from their art extends beyond traditional art forms into the world of entertainment. Musicians, actors, athletes, and influencers all create public personas that blend their talents with their personal lives, and as a result, their art—or performances—become intertwined with their identity. But when those celebrities falter or their actions contradict our values, it raises the inevitable question: Can we continue to enjoy their work without endorsing their behavior?

The debate over whether it’s possible—or even ethical—to separate the celebrity from their work is more nuanced than ever. We’re not just talking about their roles in movies or albums; this dilemma applies to influencers' social media posts, sports figures’ public stances, and even the way we perceive a celebrity’s private life in relation to their professional output. With celebrities under a constant spotlight, it’s increasingly difficult to appreciate their talents without acknowledging their personal flaws, controversial actions, or even their politics. This question is not new but is being asked with increasing frequency in today’s society. The debate over whether we can – or should – separate the artist from the art touches on deep ethical considerations, personal values, and the power of artistic creation.

Celebrities are often seen as larger-than-life figures, with their work serving as an extension of their personal brand. Much like artists, their fame and public image often merge with their creative output. This is especially true for actors, musicians, and athletes, whose personal lives are closely followed by fans and media alike. Whether through the characters they portray, the music they create, or their philanthropic endeavors, celebrities often share intimate pieces of themselves with the public.

The allure of the artist’s persona is undeniable. In many cases, the creator’s identity becomes inseparable from their work, often fueling or even enhancing its allure. Consider how much of an artist’s public life—whether it’s their political activism, personal struggles, or scandals—becomes intertwined with their output. When an artist is revered, their work often takes on additional layers of meaning, shaped by their life’s story.

This interplay between image and art becomes even more complicated when a celebrity is caught in scandal or accused of harmful behavior. Suddenly, the fan who once idolized an actor, singer, or influencer might feel as if they have to choose between their admiration for the work and their personal ethics. Should we keep supporting them, or does the support of their art feel like an endorsement of their behavior?

One of the key reasons it's difficult to separate the artist from the art is the issue of accountability. When an artist’s actions or words contradict the values we hold dear, consuming their art can feel like an endorsement of their behavior. This is particularly evident in the case of artists who have been accused of harming others, whether it be through abuse, exploitation, or discriminatory views.
In these instances, it’s not just about the moral dilemma of engaging with their work, but also the social responsibility we feel to not perpetuate harmful behaviors. We might ask ourselves: by continuing to consume art from controversial figures, are we excusing their actions or giving them a platform? The tension between personal enjoyment and social responsibility can create a deep internal conflict.

The rise of "cancel culture" has made the artist-celebrity dilemma even more immediate. In a digital age where everything a celebrity does or says is magnified and immortalized online, the notion of separating the celebrity from their art becomes less viable. When a celebrity faces accusations of misconduct, whether it be through #MeToo allegations, racist remarks, or unethical actions, fans and critics alike are quick to react. Some argue that we have a responsibility to hold celebrities accountable for their actions and stop supporting them financially and emotionally. Others contend that we should separate the work from the personal life, not allowing their flaws to eclipse their achievements.

The case of R. Kelly serves as a prominent example. His musical contributions, which had once made him one of the most influential artists in the R&B world, are now largely overshadowed by his conviction for sexual abuse and exploitation. For many fans, listening to his music feels wrong, as it now brings the weight of his criminal behavior along with it. Yet, there are still those who continue to listen to his songs, either because they believe in the value of his music or because they believe that the art itself should remain unaffected by the artist’s personal life. 

From an ethical standpoint, I for one no longer listen to R. Kelly, among many other artists/abusers. Supporting a rapist and pedophile, regardless of his talent, is complicitness of their actions, period. He is still benefiting by monetizing off "fans" who would rather listen to a good beat than support the dozens of Black girls and women abused by him. The money he made directly from his art and his fans is what allowed him to fund his abuser lifestyle. Not to mention, it was hush money to pay off the families of the girls/women he abused to keep his preferences private and out of the litigation. Being a woman, having dealt with abusive and toxic men, and having daughters of my own are my guiding post on whose artistry I choose to engage with. While those weren't my daughters who were abused and assaulted by him, they were someone else's child(ren). Me being in that specific situation shouldn't be the only reason why I stop supporting vile and disgusting human beings. It's called emotional intelligence, empathy, and critical thinking. 

Take for example the current situation with Justin Baldoni suing the New York Times for the way they reported the news regarding the sexual harassment Blake Lively allegedly experienced on the set of It Ends With Us. When her complaint came out, so many women rushed to believe and stand with her without hearing Justin Baldoni's side. I'm not going to lie, when I heard of her claims, I was disappointed, but my intuition told me something didn't feel right. I love the work Justin Baldoni has been doing with getting men to talk about their feelings, their struggles, going to therapy, and hosting a podcast, The Man Enough Podcast, deconstructing masculinity and the negative implications of patriarchy on men. When his lawsuit came out, it began to make more sense. The 87 page document  provided incriminating evidence that contradicted BL's claims and how she basically danced around the truth and provided detailed accounts where she took things out of context to make it appear as though she was the victim in the situation and not the aggressor. She essentially alienated JB from the rest of the cast, blocked him from participating in interviews with the cast, among many other things. Many claim that is was a hostile takeover because she wanted producer credits and the rights to the sequel without JB's involvement. Her narcissistic and calculated methods turned JB's passion project for the last 6 years into a nightmare. Don't get me started on Colleen Hoover and wanting to be buddy buddy with Hollywood "royalty" and the controversies surrounding her books. What I do know is that I never heard anyone talk ill of JB; but I have heard of BL's mean girl vibes since her start on Gossip Girl. When this all came out, her role in A Simple Favor seems more in line with who she is in real life. Again, I don't personally know her, but these are based on how she presents herself to the general public and reading between the lines of the things she says in interviews. I mean, she and Ryan Reynolds did get married on a plantation. That in itself should speak volumes about them. For the record, no one should be getting married on plantations.

The criteria is still the same regardless of it's a musician, celebrity, athlete, or anyone in the public eye. I'm not perfect by any means and know that I can't 100% eliminate the art from my life, but I do make a conscious effort to opt out of listening or watching. There are situations that I can't control, like out in public, at get togethers, and/or other people's homes. And that is precisely why I keep a pair of charged earbuds with me so that I can just pop them in my ears and  listen to a book. Shoutout to Libby!

So, is it possible to completely separate the artist from the art? The short answer is: probably not.While it may be tempting to say, "I can just enjoy the art without endorsing the artist," this becomes more complicated when money is involved. Celebrities are often financially rewarded for their work, and continuing to engage with their art—whether through album sales, ticket purchases, or even streaming platforms—translates to supporting them directly. For some, this feels like complicity. Can we, in good conscience, continue to financially support a celebrity whose actions contradict our ethical beliefs? Or should we view art as a separate entity, unaffected by the moral character of the person who created it? Our connection to art is deeply emotional, and when an artist’s personal life or behavior enters the conversation, it can irreversibly affect how we perceive their work. Yet, the act of disconnection can also serve as a form of resistance. By acknowledging the artist's flaws, we engage in a more complex conversation about the nature of art, creativity, and society itself.

It’s important to acknowledge that there is no one-size-fits-all answer. Some may find it easier to appreciate a work despite knowing its creator's flaws, while others may choose to abandon the art entirely, unable to reconcile the two. The answer to this question is ultimately personal, shaped by our own values, experiences, and tolerance for nuance. It requires self-reflection and an understanding of what we value in both art and the artists who create it.

To reiterate as we move forward, we must ask ourselves: 

Can we appreciate art and performance for what they are, or is it impossible to overlook the human behind the work?

Until next time...

Sharon 

P.S. One thing I will continue to look forward to in 2025 and beyond is the downfall of Hollywood, politicians, and the rich. People are waking up, educating themselves, and realizing that the math isn't mathing. When the masses get fed up and realize there are more of us than them, we can demand changes. Don't believe me, just watch Disney's A Bug's Life. The movie is a metaphor for the power structure/dynamic between the haves and the have-nots, symbolic of how our society operates.

Plotting Your Progress: Fun Ways to Track Your Reading Journey

In today’s digital age, we live in a world that thrives on constant comparison. From social media updates to fitness challenges, it often feels like there's always something to measure against. One area where this comparison has become particularly prominent is reading. The rise of reading challenges, yearly goals, and social sharing platforms like Goodreads, Fable, and StoryGraph has made it easier than ever to track how many books we read. While this can be motivating for some, it has also led to the notion that reading a lot of books is a competition. The way I see it, I am only in competition with myself from the previous year and how I can make a healthier, happier, and knowledgeable version of myself going forward. Knowledge is power. Well, according to Cersei Lannister, "Power is Power." 

Here's another take that I really appreciate:

(CREDIT)

I know, I know, I know, my previous post was me sharing that I listened to 402 books in 2024. That was me sharing my reignited passion for reading, (and possibly making up for lost time while being focused on living and surviving). Too many books, too little time, with a dash of undiagnosed ADHD and a listening speed of 2.5X to 3.0X. Because of this chaotic combination, I now have so many authors that I can recommend and anticipate new books from, as well as a TBR that is constantly growing and never-ending.

I saw this chart in one of the book communities I am in on Facebook and it is not to shame or make anyone feel bad, rather, I hope this makes you proud of the progress you have made with your reads and/or encourages someone to start their reading journey and fall in love with books as I have. I think about how rich my life is now with all the knowledge I have acquired from the books I have been exposed to. Everyone has their own reasons for reading, and those reasons can vary widely from person to person. I hope you find your reason(s) and niche. Some read to escape reality, others to learn, and some for the pure love of stories. For me, it's all three! 

(CREDIT)

If you're an avid reader like me, keeping track of the books you read can enhance your reading experience. Tracking your journey not only helps you remember what you've read but also allows you to set goals, analyze your reading habits, and discover new books that match your interests. Whether you're diving into fiction or exploring thought-provoking nonfiction, here are some practical ways to document and celebrate your reading journey.

1. Keep a Reading Journal
A reading journal is a timeless method for tracking your books. You can jot down titles, authors, dates finished, and personal thoughts. Here’s how to get started:

• Create a dedicated notebook or use a digital note-taking app.

• Record basic details like the book title, author, and genre.

• Add your favorite quotes, memorable moments, and personal reviews.

• Reflect on themes and your emotional response to the story.

2. Use Book Tracking Apps
Apps make tracking effortless and fun. Platforms like StoryGraph, Fable, and Goodreads are popular among readers:

• StoryGraph (Founder: Nadia Odunayo - Black-Owned Business): Offers mood-based recommendations, detailed reading stats (such as average page length, reading pace, and favorite genres), and customizable reading challenges and goals. You can filter books by specific themes, triggers, or content warnings, which helps you find books that align with your values and preferences, as well as ensuring you avoid books that might not be suitable for your needs. It doesn’t overwhelm users with ads or distraction, as it is ad-free, providing a distraction-free experience.

• Fable (Founder: Padmasree Warrior - Indian-Owned Business): Focuses on creating a more social and interactive reading experience, offering a variety of benefits for book lovers. Users to join or create book clubs where they can read and discuss books together in real time. This social aspect enhances the reading experience, as you can share thoughts, questions, and reflections with fellow readers. In book clubs, you can participate in live chats with fellow readers, discussing chapters and characters as you go along. This creates a dynamic, real-time conversation around books. able offers personalized book recommendations based on your reading history and preferences. You can discover new books through curated lists, ensuring that your reading experience stays fresh and relevant. Fable also has a large library of ebooks, including bestsellers, contemporary works, and more niche titles. As a subscription-based service, it gives you access to a variety of titles at a flat fee, which can be more affordable than purchasing books individually. One of the main disadvantages of using Fable as a reading platform is the lack of audiobook support. While the platform offers a wide range of ebooks and focuses on providing a great digital reading experience, it does not yet support audiobooks. Here's hoping it happens sooner rather than later!

• Goodreads: Provides a social platform to share your progress, join book clubs, and set annual reading goals. (MY TAKE on Goodreads - I won't elaborate too much into Goodreads because I am not a fan of the monopoly Amazon has become thanks to Jeff Bezos and his greed. While I do use Amazon for shopping, I try my hardest to buy most of my books off Amazon. I know it's easy to use Goodreads if you read on a kindle and/or buy books on Amazon, but Bezos is rich enough. )

These apps also allow you to categorize books as “Want to Read,” “Currently Reading,” or “Read,” making organization a breeze. You can also categorize as "Did Not Finish" (DNF) for books that you just couldn't get into or "Re-Read" for those stories that were too good to only read once! 

One advantage of StoryGraph and Fable is that they offer the ability to import data from Goodreads, which comes with several advantages for users transitioning or integrating their reading experiences across platforms. Both StoryGraph and Fable allow for a quick setup by importing your Goodreads data, which eliminates the need to manually add books you've read and reviews you've written. This can be especially beneficial for avid readers with large libraries.  Importing from Goodreads ensures that none of your reading history, ratings, or reviews are lost. Whether you're transitioning to a new platform or looking to back up your data, it guarantees continuity. Both platforms provide personalized recommendations and insights, which become more accurate with your Goodreads history. Your preferences, reading stats, and trends can be used to generate book suggestions tailored to your tastes. By importing your Goodreads data, you can maintain connections with friends and fellow readers, ensuring that your social reading experience continues seamlessly, whether on StoryGraph or Fable.

Added bonus -- If you don't want to support and keep making a corrupt billionaire richer year after year, StoryGraph and Fable are the way to go! BIPOC and woman-owned/operated = a win/win for everyone!

3. Create a Spreadsheet
If you love customizing data, a spreadsheet might be your perfect tool. Use columns for:

• Title, author, and genre

• Date started and finished

• Star rating

• Key themes or takeaways

Spreadsheets allow you to filter and sort data, making it easy to analyze your reading habits over time.

If you don't want to create one, I was fortunate to to find ONE made by a fellow book lover when I first began my reading journey in October 2023. I wish I could tag her for credit, but it's been so long since I last had access to her video. Make sure to make a copy of the spreadsheet before you do anything else to ensure the template works for anyone else accessing the link after you. 

DISCLAIMER: Do keep in mind that this spreadsheet is on Google Drive and you should have working knowledge on how to add additional columns/rows, edit options, use formulas, and how to create/edit charts and graphs. Also, this creator of the spreadsheet's genre of choice is romance, so if that's not your forte, knowing how to maneuver in spreadsheets is a MUST! If you don't, Google/YouTube will be your best friend, like they are mine.

4. Participate in Reading Challenges
Joining challenges can motivate you to track your progress and stay consistent. Examples include:

• The annual Goodreads Reading Challenge

• "Read Around the World" challenges focusing on diverse authors

• Genre-specific goals, like reading a certain number of mysteries or memoirs

Track your progress in a journal, app, or social media post to stay accountable.

5. Annotate Your Books
For physical book lovers, annotating directly in the margins can be a great way to track your thoughts and progress. Use sticky notes, highlighters, or even a pencil to:

• Highlight meaningful passages

• Add notes about your reactions or insights

• Mark questions or topics for further exploration

6. Join a Book Community
Online book communities offer a space to share and track your reading journey with others. Platforms like Reddit (“/r/books”), Instagram (Bookstagram), Tik Tok (BookTok) or Facebook groups can inspire you to:

• Share your reading goals

• Discover new books

• Discuss your thoughts with like-minded readers

7. Use Visual Aids
If you’re a visual learner, tracking your reading journey with visuals can be exciting:

• Bullet Journals: Incorporate creative trackers like bookshelf drawings, habit trackers, or pie charts.

• Digital Infographics: Use tools like Canva to create appealing reading summaries.

• Wall Displays: Dedicate a space in your home for a reading wall where you display book covers or quotes.

8. Reflect and Adjust
At the end of each month or year, review your reading log. Ask yourself:

• What genres did I enjoy the most?

• Did I meet my reading goals?

• What did I learn from these books?

Use this reflection to refine your goals and improve your tracking methods.

Tracking your reading journey is more than just a list of books; it’s a way to deepen your connection to the stories and ideas that shape your world. Whether you choose a traditional journal, a high-tech app, or a creative visual aid, the key is finding a method that fits your style. Start tracking today and discover the joy of looking back on your literary adventures.

What book tracking method do you prefer and why?

Until next time...

Sharon

My Year of Reading: 2024 Stats, Highlights, and Takeaways

When I started 2024, I never imagined I’d end the year with 402 books under my belt. What began as a casual challenge turned into an unforgettable literary adventure that shaped my days and expanded my worldview. As an avid reader, who found her love for reading again at the end of 2023, 2024 has been a remarkable reading journey is all about expanding horizons and deepening connections. Last year, I aimed to prioritize books by BIPOC authors, diving into diverse narratives that reflect unique cultural experiences and voices. With a busy schedule, audiobooks continued to be my go-to for staying on track. I made it a point to include more South Asian and BIPOC authors in my fun reads. Seeing my culture reflected in characters’ lives or exploring narratives I hadn’t experienced before brought a sense of connection and joy that was uniquely fulfilling, following stories that delved into the complexities of identity, culture, and belonging. From gripping novels to thought-provoking memoirs, books have become a bridge to understanding the myriad human experiences that shape us.

I started the year off with a South Asian author, and it is only right that I ended the year on the same note! Without even trying, I balanced non-fiction with my fiction books, 1 out of four. While I love my fiction books, I am a lifelong learner and constantly looking for ways to educate and improve myself. For me, the magic lies in the balance. Some days, I crave the comfort of a cozy read. Other days, I’m eager to dive into something thought-provoking and educational. The key is variety. Alternating between genres, topics, and tones keeps my reading life dynamic and fulfilling. Reading for fun brings me joy; reading for education fuels my growth. Together, they create a rich, rewarding experience that goes beyond turning pages. They help me stay curious, connected, and engaged with the world around me. 

Some amazing authors that I happen upon or found on social media (in no particular order) and their genres:

• Sajni Patel - South Asian - Contemporary Romance
• Tiffany Jackson - African American - YA, Thriller, Mystery
• Angeline Boulley - Native American - YA, Thriller, Mystery
• Tracey Deonn - African American - YA, Fantasy
• V. Castro - Mexican American - Horror
• R. F. Kuang - Chinese American - Fantasy
• Nisha Sharma - South Asian - Contemporary Romance, YA
• Claire M. Andrews - White - YA, Fantasy, Greek Mythology Retelling
• Freida McFadden - White - Thriller, Mystery
• Stacey Abrams (Selena Montgomery) - African American - Crime Thrillers

My favorite reads (again, in no particular order)!

Here are some of my reading stats (all metrics through StoryGraph):

As I plan my 2025 reading goals, I’m committed to continuing this balance. I’ll keep discovering books that make me laugh, cry, and think. And I’ll remember that no matter what I pick up next, there’s always something to gain—whether it’s a smile or a new perspective.

I have also chosen not to read/listen to books be Colleen Hoover and Sarah J. Maas. Seeing all the discourse and negativity surrounding Justin Baldoni trying to make a movie about DV and the author/Blake Lively, and the rest of the cast bullying and getting him booted off his passion project that he has been working on for the past 5 years. I've read three of her books and that was enough for me to know she's not my cup of tea. In regards to Sarah J. Maas, I have no desire to read ACOTAR due to her incorporation of Breonna Taylor's murder on the cover release of A Court of Silver Flames, as well as her lackluster inclusion of BIPOC and queer representation in her books. 

How do you approach your reading life? Do you lean toward fun or educational reads, or do you try to mix both like I do? Share your thoughts—I’d love to hear about your favorite books and what they’ve taught you!

Here’s to a new year of growth, discovery, and unforgettable stories!

Until next time...

Sharon